It made me realize a very simple yet often forgotten truth: Beating myself up for everything single mistake will not make me a good person, because I already am. You just need to be willing t Perhaps the most simple self-book I have ever read, though, it's a book to read again and take notes. This book legitimately changed my life! So there's no reason to be defensive, this is a fast, multi-genre work that is worth the effort. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control. It helped me see new ways to release control and trust God and accept his forgiveness and grace. And this perhaps will be the scariest, the most loving, the most rewarding thing you have ever done. This book made me aware of my negative beliefs and thought processes, explained where they came from, and showed me how to change for the better.
For example, if you hate your body for being too fat or too thin, you are unlikely to change it, very likely to be miserable, less likely to care for your body and nourish it and maintain it. Layoutnya lumayan, tapi fontnya nyebelin. It does, however, generalize and make assumptions about people and how they react to the way they were treated that are not necessarily true. This book can help you get out of your comfort zone and stop sabotaging yourself. All you have to do is accept it.
Beda dengan buku2 motivasi lainnya. As with most self-help books, the value in this Zen-oriented approach is in the patience of waiting for the tidbit that is of particular value to oneself. Before reading this book, I was unaware of how much negative talk I had going on in my own head. There are negative consequences for behavior that involves someone else--bad karma, losing your job, losing your spouse, hurting someone you love. You are watching, watching, watching.
All you have to do is accept it. Well, no it's a little more than that. In 1997, Cheri founded Living Compassion, a nonprofit organization dedicated to peace and service. Never have I encountered a self-help book with such simplicity yet such profound wisdom. I finally read it while on a road trip to Utah, while and I had the time and space to absorb it. Nothing new, but a nice summary of the reasons for meditating and the rationale behind letting go of self-hate and embracing self-acceptance. I earmarked about 15 pages out of its short 234 page count.
It should be a Podcast or Magazine Article. I read this at the gym yesterday. So everything starts slowing down, everything starts simplifying. And it's not preachy, it looks like it's hand written so we slow down to read it and it's bare bones wisdom to be read in one fell swoop or digested in small bites. In 1983, Cheri founded the Mountain View Zen Center, and in 1987 she founded the Zen Monastery Peace Center near Murphys, California. Because hating others, and abusing others, is just our own self-hate directed outwards. But your behavior towards others becomes their business when your behavior puts an unfair burden on others extra work, hurting their feelings repeatedly.
This book isn't for everyone, but it should be. There's really nothing to do except turn your attention inward. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control. Most people live and die completely trapped in self-hate and never know it. This book is anti-self help because it promotes a belief that everything you need is inside you - there is nothing to fix, the self When this book was given to me as a gift I read the title and was a little offended.
The author is a long-time Zen teacher who has developed skillful means addressing individual suffering. Cheri Huber challenged my perception of myself and presented me with practices and ideas that allowed me to better my own relationship with myself. Cheri Huber has been a student and teacher of Zen awareness practice for over 30 years. Now I'm condemned eternally to self-hate. I have given copies to friends over the years and recommend it heartily without reservation. I highly recommend this book to anyone.
You just need to be willing to make a change for yourself. After addressing these factors, it illustrates how a meditation practice can be developed and practiced in efforts to free oneself from self-hating beliefs. It was a changing point for my mental health, and my relationship with what's between my ears. It provides examples of some of the forms self-hate takes, including taking blame but not credit, holding grudges, and trying to be perfect, and explores the many facets of self-hate, including its role in addiction, the battering cycle, and the illusion of control. We've been taught that this is what good people do, and a failure to do this will lead us to become a self-centered monster that will run amok in society. It would be a waste of your money to buy it and a waste of your time to read it.
It took me a while to get the courage to fully dive in. This book implies that self-love is the answer to everything. However, in true Zen fashion, Huber is talking about. It would be difficult to have in that form with the hand drawings in the paperback version. But in a deeper reading and it can be read very quickly with a more open mind, I found that it was applicable to me not only to some of the unapparent self-destructive tendencies, but especially as a father, employer, brother, significant other, etc. Some of that advice actually saves us from future dangers. There are lots of drawings and different fonts, etc.