I took my time with this book because it was so eye opening, both as a pastor who counsels people who are dealing with shame and to how shame has and is telling an alternative story in my own life. Chapter 9 finishes with an eschatological touch as Thompson casts vision for how our freedom from shame can lead to joyfully engage our various creative callings. This is a life-changing book. Psychiatrist Curt Thompson unpacks the soul of shame, revealing its ubiquitous nature and neurobiological roots. But God is telling a different story for your life. And, of course you can see where this is going, since shame makes us hide, keeps us from deep connection, wrecks havoc on relationships and is thereby a joy killer.
Never has a book so clearly revealed to me that our struggle is not against flesh and blood. In The Soul of Shame, Curt Thompson has provided an important contribution to the conversation about this difficult topic. Whether we realize it or not, shame affects every aspect of our personal lives and vocational endeavors. If you experience shame—which is to say, if you are a human being—then this book bears good news for you. He illustrates how experiences, often from childhood, are transformed into seeds of shame that shape human behavior for a lifetime, influence decision-making and form the stimulus for unconscious responses in our day-to-day personal and professional lives for decades.
It has lurked from the garden into the fabric of our lives and relationships in ways that we are called to fight against. Shame leads to retreat and retreat leads to isolation. This book shines in several areas the case studies mentioned above being one of the most One of the few Christian works that I've read that does not abandon science to discuss faith. I am ashamed for being forty without making an indelible mark on my world. He is a Christian psychiatrist deeply influenced by the field of interpersonal neurobiology and particularly the work of Dan Siegel.
Rewrite the story of your life and embrace healing and wholeness as you discover and defeat shame's insidious agenda. I might have switched chapters 4 and 5 as well, giving the biblical background and foundation first, then expanding the idea of lives as storytelling creatures. Thompson draws on Brown and builds on her insights, but his approach is different. The breakup of a marriage. I still have more questions about how shame is healed, but I feel like I have a beginning understanding now. The book is unique because it doesn't just propose theory and questions but offers answers, explanations and solutions. Shame hides in plain sight and its subtle, sinister role affects all aspects of life.
The connections he made with the story in Genesis, the fall, redemption and the story we are telling with our lives and that greater story really made a lot of sense and shook me to my core. Very scientific, analytical, and at the same time relatable, l Shame is a multi-faceted, subversive monster that keeps us from both the belief and experience of God's love and delight in us. The Soul of Shame documents this essentially theological claim by citing social science research, and it is very compelling. Like a skillful surgeon encouraging us through a difficult but necessary procedure, he works to set us free from our old stories in which shame holds us captive to the common, core fear of having our inadequacies exposed. The move from guilt to shame is a move from rules that may smother to relationships that may hurt but that also have the capacity to heal. Chapter nine, explores the new vitality in vocation we experience as we experience healing. In it he guides the reader into an awareness of shame's neurobiological, relational and spiritual underpinnings, revealing its darker purpose, which is to undermine the story of beauty and goodness that God desires us to live.
I think he is on to something important here, something that many authors hint at, but few explore deeply. This is a wise book that knows about our present tense and our possible future. The E-mail message field is required. Do you feel like you fall short? It seeks to destroy our identity in Christ, replacing it with a damaged version of ourselves that results in unhealed pain and brokenness. His training in psychiatry and medicine and his love and commitment to the life and spirit of Jesus uniquely qualify him both to diagnose and treat the ailment while pointing us to the one and only source of true life. As such, the more we understand how our brains respond to shame, the more we can work to help and train our brains to respond to hope and truth.
These stories will move you, I am sure. I read it with hope. Whether we realize it or not, shame affects every aspect of our personal lives and vocational endeavors. As a practicing psychiatrist, Thompson has a wealth of personal experience to draw on. Few self-help type books about interpersonal psychology and relationships take the work-world seriously, and fewer still do informed by a theologically mature perspective of vocation and calling. Rewrite the story of your life and embrace healing and wholeness as you discover and defeat shame's insidious agenda. The examples he gave were so helpful.
Thank you Dr Thompson for this marvelous life changing book! And, yet, it is probably the one word to which most of our negative and destructive feelings about ourselves can be boiled down. He is a shrewd observer of human reality and reads the Bible in knowing and compelling ways. It is often the case that of the many, many books we stock and the many we truly appreciate, the ones that I end up writing about here are the ones that most captivated me, that mean the most to me, that I not only want to list, but for which I want to be an evangelist The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves by Dr. It is clear that ever since, sin has sought to clothe us in a deception about ourselves and our value. I honestly began listening to this audiobook with low expectations because most of the things I have read on shame do not weave together the topic of shame and a Biblical worldview in a way that creates a succinct storyline. We need to talk about shame. It is good to be reminded of how we long to be noticed, to be known, to be accepted.
This is what Curt Thompson taught me in this book. He explains it, over and over, deepening our awareness of how human alienation and brokenness can be understood through the lens of shame, with an assist from neuroscience. In The Soul of Shame, Curt Thompson has provided an important contribution to the conversation about this difficult topic. But this is what Curt Thompson invites us to do. To assume that God is good, that his word and work in the world are real, and then to assume that there is much to know about the physical science behind his work is, to me, a thing of honest beauty.
I also appreciated the numerous case studies of his patients and clients. He teases us with the provocative notion that God was vulnerable in the sense that God was open to wounding, to pain, to rejection, to death! His explanations of the main concepts were overly wordy and repetitive to a fault. That is where it can do its most destructive work. Thompson's expertise and compassion will help you identify your own pains and struggles and find freedom from the lifelong negative messages that bind you. It seeks to destroy our identity in Christ, replacing it with a damaged version of ourselves that results in unhealed pain and brokenness.