In this sobering letter, therapists are encouraged to protect themselves and have a plan for potential danger. It places the two interlocutors, as well as the reader, on the same level: people who share the desire to remain attentive to themselves and to others, and who believe that empathy heals, within the setting of therapy and in human relations in general. This is what you have brought together in your book: the search for the whole regarding the person and, at the same time, the network of primary affective relationships that we call the family and of social relationships. What I have taken from my educational program, from my experience in the field, and from this book; is that it is important to be creative, innovative and hopeful, but it is with a filter on how best to serve the client, do the most good, and be aware of myself so that I am present in the moments I have with clients. Organized by the seasons, it lends itself to reading and perhaps discussing in a peer group in four sessions. The more I have thought about it, I realize that this specific aspect of my personality will continue, but how do I get better at being congruent with my clients? Read more slowly, letter by letter, one could allow deeper reflection, perhaps journaling on its intersections with one's own work. The media, which do not encourage people to think about world peace or spiritual needs, is also implicated.
Pipher shares the insight she has gained from thirty years of experience as a therapist, working with a clientele ranging from adolescents to intricate families. I found myself thinking it would be nice to be in supervision with the author, as much for her gentle and encouraging spirit as for her practical advice. The first of its kind, this volume gives voice to long-suppressed thoughts and emotions, enabling psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, and other mental health specialists to achieve the connection and healing they bring to their own work. The tools of our trade include our intuition, intelligence, warmth, and character structures. For the longest time, my favorite 'adult' book was one called 'If You Want To Write. Featuring comprehensive global coverage of women's issues and concerns, from violence and sexuality to feminist theory, the Routledge International Encyclopedia of Women brings the field into the new millennium. I recall thinking, I get that I have to be able to balance my emotions, but being happy and positive is the fiber of my being.
The winter correspondence discourses on the characteristics of good therapists, conducting family therapy, and helping clients connect surface complaints with deeper issues. Oh, and since it's letters to one of her supervisees, it made me think back on all the wonderful mentors, supervisors, etc that I've had over the years and our interns too. In the introduction to Letters to a Young Therapist, Pipher states she has a PhD in human suffering. After studies in clinical psychology, medicine and psychiatry, Di Nicola trained and collaborated in family therapy with Mara Selvini Palazzoli and Maurizio Andolfi and more recently in global mental health with the Harvard Program in Refugee Trauma. I found this book a fantastic and worth-while read.
For therapists caught between their grief and the empathy they provide for their clients, this collection explores the complexity of bereavement within the practice setting. But not until now has this gifted healer described her unique perspective on how therapy can help us revitalize our emotional landscape in an increasingly stressful world. Covering such core issues as transference, trauma, hysteria, the influence of the mother, and love and hate, and drawing on the work of notable analysts such as Winnicott, McDougall, Pankow and Ferenczi, the book explores the many facets of healing function of psychoanalysis in practice and discloses the workings of the psyche in human existence. Not only that but for anyone who is in therapy, this book can give them a taste of what their therapist may experience during those meetings too. In a creative letter called Story Doctors, the author states that therapists are primarily storytellers as they help clients to view the world more optimistically.
Mary Pipher does a wonderful job talking about the beauties of therapy, the pitfalls, and the overall process. This book included so many things that do not get taught in school. As someone who teaches graduate level psychology students, I have some sense of how difficult it can be to process the amount of information in our field. Although bliss is great when you can get it, contentment is more achievable. This is not a research based or even theoretical book, but it is an anecdotal account of her experience as a therapist written in the form of letters to a fictional student named Laura. Covering such core issues as transference, trauma, hysteria, the influence of the mother, and love and hate, and drawing on the work of notable analysts such as Winnicott, McDougall, Pankow and Ferenczi, the book explores the many facets of healing function of psychoanalysis in practice and discloses the workings of the psyche in human existence. Author: Mary Pipher Publisher: Basic Books, 2016.
Snuggle with a baby, take a cooking class, or join a theater group. Pipher rightfully challenges our culture of ignoring the problems of children, refugees, the aged and the poor. Based on thirty years of working with couples, Pipher conveys a clear understanding of marital dynamics and the challenges of working with couples in therapy. Pipher's compassion and insight shine from every page of this thoughtful and engaging book. This is feedback I had gotten before I even came into the counseling field. In her final words of wisdom, a frank letter to Laura is written about the painful reality of just how hard life can be and is for many people.
Therefore, they may find it difficult to discuss the things that made the therapeutic relationship meaningful. These papers, although of course a source of anxiety, are often quite creative. The first part of the book contains her letters from Winter. It's a short book, but it's packed dense with common sense. Pipher makes doing therapy sound difficult often in the sense of being tedious or unglamorous, actually but rewarding. Similarly, when a therapist loses someone in their private lives, they are expected to isolate themselves from grief, since allowing one's personal life to enter the working relationship can interfere with a client's self-discovery and healing.
It re-examines major psychoanalytic theories in the light of rich clinical practice, and in the light of the practice of friendship, whilst portraying the practice of analysis as the choice of a personal code of ethics. These whistleblower jobs are risky and punishing. Pipher also acknowledges her values influence her work, and states emphatically that our responsibility is to be honest with our clients about our values. Even if it is your second cousin twice removed, seek out that person and build a family relationship. Pragmatism, spirituality, an entertaining predecessor of Freud, Franz Mesmer, the use and misuse of drugs in psychological treatment, and role of meditation in psychology. I recently spotted the book on my shelf and felt compelled to share a couple of the refreshing and relatable passages. Plutonium for the wannabe-therapist soul.
Pipher herself seems to have little depth as a therapist, preferring twee conclusions and homespun advice rather than exploring the gritty boundaries and limits of therapy in the field. Sweet confirmation and inspiration regarding why I have pursued counseling as a career. At the end of the course students write a paper outlining their own theory of personality. I read this book slowly and meditatively, a little bit at a time. From start to finish, I enjoyed reading every single chapter of this book.
After all, the clients are not there for us, they are there for them. Hedgespeth has completed a postdoctoral fellowship in child clinical psychology at the Reiss-Davis Child Study Center. An excellent thought from Plato about education involving teaching our children to find pleasure in the right things concludes this letter. A practical, common sense approach to therapy is used along with a focus on trusting in the process of therapy. We have to be able to stay clear and congruent with clients, to remain focused. At their core, therapists must be motivated by a deep desire to help others.